Detox Time: Removing toxic people from our lives

Being healthy, not only involves our food consumption and physical activity, it also involves our company consumption.  I strongly believe that as women, once we’re gracing across the trail of maturity and begin to move forward at achieving our goals, we begin to take notice to certain people in our lives that happen to cause us undue stress.  These are people that push us over the edge, thrive on negativity, or always has something out of control going on in their lives.  They can be identified as family members, lovers, friends, co-workers, or just those people that happen to be in our company.  We’ve all experienced them and seen them in action, while thinking to ourselves, “Why did I put myself in this situation again?” 

In the case that you’re having an issue identifying the presence of these individuals in your circle, here are a few examples of their behaviors that surface regularly:

·       They constantly put you down, instead of lifting you up.

·       They consistently invite you to be in the company of individuals that do not mean you well, in an effort to intentionally sabotage you.

·       Your stress level instantly moves from 1 to 10 while in their company.

·       Their level of conversation is always negative and never offers any kind words about anyone.

·       Everything has to be about them and their issues.

·       They are always bringing drama to your doorstep, regardless if the situation has anything to do with them or you.

Has anyone of these examples sparked an image of someone in your life?  If so, it’s time to detox yourself from being in the presence of that individual; either entirely or as much as possible.  In all honesty, the actions of this individual clearly shows that their level of interest is not in being a part of your happiness, but being the key leader in your sadness.  They are interested in the glorification that they receive from being the bearer of chaos in your life, which in all actuality translates into meaning that they are having some serious issues within themselves.  

If you are at a crossroads with their behavior, it is you that must determine if you are ready to take the step to detoxify them from your life.  It is not an easy step to begin the detoxification process, but it is well worth it.  I recommend taking some quiet time to re-evaluate your present situation and future goals, seek your higher power in prayer not only for yourself, but for the toxic individual to receive some much needed help, and to seek the help of a professional therapist or life coach, if needed. We must remember that as Liberated Sista’s, if we expect to take the next step to pass over the threshold to our future, it is not going to be wide enough to welcome everyone from our past.  

If you’ve dealt with the removal of toxic people from your life or happen to be in the process of doing so, I welcome your comments, concerns, and questions.

Peace & Love

Edquina